{"id":4329,"date":"2021-02-01T11:36:31","date_gmt":"2021-02-01T10:36:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/?p=4329"},"modified":"2022-02-23T10:43:25","modified_gmt":"2022-02-23T09:43:25","slug":"pochybnosti-a-jak-se-jich-zbavit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/2021\/02\/01\/pochybnosti-a-jak-se-jich-zbavit\/","title":{"rendered":"Nejste dost dob\u0159\u00ed? Kde se v n\u00e1s berou pochybnosti a jak se jich zbavit"},"content":{"rendered":"

S pochybnostmi o sob\u011b sam\u00fdch se pot\u00fdk\u00e1me \u00fapln\u011b v\u0161ichni. Jen\u017ee postupem \u010dasu mohou vy\u00fastit v neodbytn\u00e9ho vnit\u0159n\u00edho kritika \u2013 hlas, kter\u00fd n\u00e1m na\u0161ept\u00e1v\u00e1, v\u00a0\u010dem v\u0161em nejsme dost dob\u0159\u00ed. Co d\u011blat, kdy\u017e v\u00e1m pochybnosti za\u010dnou p\u0159er\u016fstat p\u0159es hlavu?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Ve spole\u010dnosti nastaven\u00e9 na maxim\u00e1ln\u00ed v\u00fdkon, kde je \u010dasto m\u011b\u0159\u00edtkem \u00fasp\u011bchu v\u00fd\u0161e vzd\u011bl\u00e1n\u00ed, soci\u00e1ln\u00ed status nebo raketov\u00fd postup po kari\u00e9rn\u00edm \u017eeb\u0159\u00ed\u010dku, nen\u00ed pro selh\u00e1n\u00ed nebo slabost m\u00edsto. Sv\u00e9 \u00fasp\u011bchy s\u00a0naprostou samoz\u0159ejmost\u00ed zve\u0159ej\u0148ujeme, p\u0159ibarvujeme a uji\u0161\u0165ujeme se o nich prost\u0159ednictv\u00edm lajk\u016f a obdivn\u00fdch koment\u00e1\u0159\u016f <\/span>na s\u00edt\u00edch<\/span><\/a>. Naopak p\u0159iznat, \u017ee se n\u00e1m n\u011bco nepovedlo, je \u010d\u00edm d\u00e1l obt\u00ed\u017en\u011bj\u0161\u00ed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Spokojenost vych\u00e1z\u00ed zevnit\u0159<\/h2>\n

Pochybnosti o sob\u011b sam\u00fdch \u010dasto vych\u00e1zej\u00ed zevnit\u0159. I proto m\u00e1me zpravidla tendence dod\u00e1vat si sebev\u011bdom\u00ed um\u011ble, t\u0159eba prost\u0159ednictv\u00edm drah\u00fdch nebo zna\u010dkov\u00fdch v\u011bc\u00ed, honbou za spole\u010densk\u00fdm postaven\u00edm nebo za perfektn\u00edm vzhledem. \u201eVenku\u201c p\u0159itom spokojenost hled\u00e1me marn\u011b, p\u00ed\u0161e v knize Syndrom velk\u00e9ho vlka norsk\u00fd antropolog Thomas Hylland Eriksen. Ve chv\u00edli, kdy se pil\u00ed\u0159, od kter\u00e9ho odvozujeme svou vnit\u0159n\u00ed hodnotu, zhrout\u00ed (p\u0159ijdeme o pr\u00e1ci, postaven\u00ed, zm\u011bn\u00ed se n\u00e1m vzhled, rozpadne vztah), velmi obt\u00ed\u017en\u011b hled\u00e1me vlastn\u00ed kvality uvnit\u0159.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Te\u010f b\u011bhem lockdownu je p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost\u00ed pochybovat o sob\u011b v\u00edc ne\u017e dost \u2013 v\u00a0napjat\u00e9 dom\u00e1c\u00ed atmosf\u00e9\u0159e selh\u00e1v\u00e1me jako rodi\u010de, p\u0159i distan\u010dn\u00ed v\u00fduce jsme ztratili iluze o sv\u00fdch pedagogick\u00fdch schopnostech, o partnersk\u00fdch kvalit\u00e1ch ani nemluv\u011b. Lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed \u017eij\u00ed sami, se pot\u00fdkaj\u00ed s\u00a0pocity osam\u011blosti nebo si vy\u010d\u00edtaj\u00ed, \u017ee se jim neda\u0159\u00ed naj\u00edt partnera. Kdy\u017e se k\u00a0tomu p\u0159idaj\u00ed obavy z pon\u00ed\u017een\u00ed nebo ne\u00fasp\u011bchu, pochybnosti i frustrace n\u00e1s snadno p\u0159em\u016f\u017eou.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

P\u0159ed zacyklen\u00edm se v negativn\u00edch my\u0161lenk\u00e1ch varuj\u00ed i terapeuti z port\u00e1lu <\/span>Terap.io<\/span><\/a>. <\/span>\u201eJakmile si dostate\u010dn\u011b \u010dasto opakujeme negativn\u00ed my\u0161lenku o sob\u011b, stane se z n\u00ed zako\u0159en\u011bn\u00e9 p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den\u00ed. P\u0159estaneme nad n\u00edm p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161let, p\u0159estaneme se sna\u017eit s n\u00edm bojovat.\u201c<\/span> U\u017e nedok\u00e1\u017eeme situaci nahl\u00e9dnout objektivn\u011b, p\u0159ek\u00e1\u017e\u00ed n\u00e1m \u201ebublina v\u00a0hlav\u011b\u201c. M\u00e1me u\u017e p\u0159edem hotovou p\u0159edstavu o negativn\u00edm v\u00fdsledku. I ban\u00e1ln\u00ed ud\u00e1losti si bereme osobn\u011b a st\u00e1le v\u00edce se utvrzujeme v\u00a0tom, co v\u0161echno nezvl\u00e1dneme. Postupn\u011b si o sob\u011b vytvo\u0159\u00edme obraz, kter\u00fd nemus\u00ed m\u00edt v\u016fbec nic spole\u010dn\u00e9ho s t\u00edm, jak n\u00e1s vn\u00edmaj\u00ed ostatn\u00ed.<\/span><\/p>\n

O\u0161kliv\u00ed, tlust\u00ed a neschopn\u00ed<\/h2>\n

\u201eNo ty vypad\u00e1\u0161, ani se nevejde\u0161 do kalhot! A ta ple\u0165, jak puber\u0165\u00e1k. V\u00a0pr\u00e1ci ti to taky moc nejde, vi\u010f? Stejn\u011b jen sed\u00ed\u0161 za po\u010d\u00edta\u010dem a na n\u011bjakou zaj\u00edmavou kari\u00e9ru m\u016f\u017ee\u0161 zapomenout. Takhle si rozhodn\u011b nikoho nenajde\u0161.\u201c \u0158ekli byste tohle sv\u00e9 nejlep\u0161\u00ed kamar\u00e1dce nebo kamar\u00e1dovi? Asi ne, \u017ee? A sami sob\u011b?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Ke zdrav\u00e9 sebe\u00fact\u011b vede mimo jin\u00e9 i zv\u011bdom\u011bn\u00ed toho, jak sami o sob\u011b uva\u017eujeme, jak p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161l\u00edme o sv\u00e9m t\u011ble i sv\u00fdch povahov\u00fdch kvalit\u00e1ch. Je dobr\u00e9 si uv\u011bdomit, \u017ee nejp\u0159\u00edsn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed kritik se na n\u00e1s d\u00edv\u00e1 ze zrcadla. Nikdo n\u00e1s toti\u017e nikdy ne\u0159e\u0161\u00ed tak intenzivn\u011b jako my sami. Mo\u017en\u00e1 to tak nevypad\u00e1, ale ka\u017ed\u00fd se zab\u00fdv\u00e1 s\u00e1m sebou mnohem v\u00edc ne\u017e ostatn\u00edmi. Tak\u017ee to, z\u00a0\u010deho m\u00e1me komplexy nebo za co se styd\u00edme, okol\u00ed mnohdy ani nezaregistruje.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Nechytit se do s\u00edt\u011b<\/h2>\n

Za norm\u00e1ln\u00edch okolnost\u00ed mohou b\u00fdt skv\u011bl\u00fdm zdrojem z\u00e1bavy a inspirace. Ve chv\u00edli, kdy bojujete s\u00a0pochybnostmi, v\u00e1m v\u0161ak sledov\u00e1n\u00ed \u201edokonal\u00fdch\u201c \u017eivot\u016f ostatn\u00edch, jejich z\u00e1\u017eitk\u016f a dojemn\u00fdch chvil s\u00a0bl\u00edzk\u00fdmi prok\u00e1\u017ee sp\u00ed\u0161 medv\u011bd\u00ed slu\u017ebu. \u0158e\u010d je o soci\u00e1ln\u00edch s\u00edt\u00edch. <\/span>Srovn\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed se<\/span><\/a> s jin\u00fdmi lidmi je jedn\u00edm z hnac\u00edch motor\u016f pochybnost\u00ed a Instagram i Facebook jsou pro n\u011bj doslova \u017eivnou p\u016fdou.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Negativn\u00ed vliv s\u00edt\u00ed na sebev\u011bdom\u00ed d\u011bt\u00ed i dosp\u011bl\u00fdch <\/span>potvrzuje \u0159ada studi\u00ed<\/span><\/a>. Srovn\u00e1n\u00ed s\u00a0n\u011bk\u00fdm, kdo je na tom h\u016f\u0159 ne\u017e vy, v\u00e1m v\u00a0mo\u0159i filtr\u016f a pe\u010dliv\u011b vybran\u00fdch, \u010dasto inscenovan\u00fdch z\u00e1b\u011br\u016f zcela vytr\u017een\u00fdch z\u00a0kontextu b\u011b\u017en\u00e9ho \u017eivota na s\u00edt\u00edch nehroz\u00ed. Sp\u00ed\u0161 naopak. Podle dom\u00e1c\u00edch i zahrani\u010dn\u00edch v\u00fdzkum\u016f je doba str\u00e1ven\u00e1 na s\u00edt\u00edch p\u0159\u00edmo \u00fam\u011brn\u00e1 n\u00e1r\u016fstu pocit\u016f \u00fazkosti, depres\u00ed a negativn\u00edho sebehodnocen\u00ed. A b\u011bhem lockdown\u016f, kdy jsme na obrazovky odk\u00e1z\u00e1ni v\u00edc ne\u017e kdy jindy, to plat\u00ed dvojn\u00e1sob.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Jak pochybnosti p\u0159emoci<\/h2>\n

Jak z\u00a0toho ven? M\u016f\u017eete za\u010d\u00edt t\u00edm, \u017ee se pokus\u00edte uv\u011bdomit si jedine\u010dnou <\/span>hodnotu sv\u00e9ho \u017eivota<\/span><\/a>. Zkuste si sepsat seznam toho, co na sob\u011b m\u00e1te r\u00e1di, na co jste py\u0161n\u00ed, v\u010detn\u011b \u010dinnost\u00ed a \u00fakol\u016f, kter\u00e9 v\u00e1m p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161ej\u00ed radost a nejsou nutn\u011b zam\u011b\u0159en\u00e9 na v\u00fdkon nebo v\u00fdsledek. R\u00e1di \u010dtete nebo milujete proch\u00e1zky bez c\u00edle zimn\u00ed krajinou? V\u00fdborn\u011b. Radost z\u00a0oby\u010dejn\u00fdch v\u011bc\u00ed je efektivn\u00edm protip\u00f3lem pochybnost\u00ed. Nebo spojte p\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 s u\u017eite\u010dn\u00fdm: vyrazte do pr\u00e1ce na kole<\/a>, jd\u011bte si zab\u011bhat, ud\u011blejte n\u011bco pro sv\u00e9 zdrav\u00ed, ale bez zbyte\u010dn\u00e9ho stresu a tlaku.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Mnoho lid\u00ed si taky na konci dne nebo t\u00fddne shrne, za co jsou vd\u011b\u010dn\u00ed. V\u011bdom\u00ed, \u017ee jste zdrav\u00ed, m\u00e1te funguj\u00edc\u00ed rodinu, nebo se naopak o sebe zvl\u00e1d\u00e1te postarat jako single, je sign\u00e1lem, \u017ee \u017eijete dobr\u00fd a napln\u011bn\u00fd \u017eivot. Nebo se o to alespo\u0148 sna\u017e\u00edte a to je samo o sob\u011b v\u00edc ne\u017e dost.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u0161imli jste si n\u011bkdy, jak se chov\u00e1me k\u00a0mal\u00fdm d\u011btem? Oce\u0148ujeme je hlavn\u011b za snahu, i kdy\u017e v\u00fdsledek jejich \u00fasil\u00ed \u010dasto v\u016fbec neodpov\u00edd\u00e1 p\u0159edstav\u00e1m. Co takov\u00fd p\u0159\u00edstup aplikovat i na sebe? P\u0159ehnan\u00e1 o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed jsou zabij\u00e1kem spokojenosti. Zkuste se vzd\u00e1t nere\u00e1ln\u00fdch ambic\u00ed a stanovte si mal\u00e9, snadno dosa\u017eiteln\u00e9 c\u00edle. Pochvalte se. Bu\u010fte k\u00a0sob\u011b <\/span>laskav\u00ed<\/span><\/a>. Zdravou sebe\u00factu lze vybudovat, kr\u016f\u010dek po kr\u016f\u010dku. A kde je v\u016fle, je i cesta.<\/span><\/p>\n

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V Mutumutu v\u00edme, \u017ee je du\u0161evn\u00ed zdrav\u00ed stejn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 jako to fyzick\u00e9. Proto spolupracujeme s online port\u00e1lem <\/i><\/b>Terap.io<\/i><\/b><\/a>, kter\u00fd nab\u00edz\u00ed slu\u017eby zku\u0161en\u00fdch psychoterapeut\u016f. Na\u0161i klienti u nich maj\u00ed \u00favodn\u00ed 50minutov\u00e9 sezen\u00ed zdarma. A v\u00edte, \u017ee poji\u0161\u0165ujeme i pro p\u0159\u00edpad, \u017ee p\u0159ijdete o p\u0159\u00edjmy kv\u016fli psychick\u00e9 nemoci, jako je nap\u0159\u00edklad <\/i><\/b>syndrom vyho\u0159en\u00ed<\/i><\/b><\/a>?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Na kolik v\u00e1s to vyjde?<\/a><\/div><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

S pochybnostmi o sob\u011b sam\u00fdch se pot\u00fdk\u00e1me \u00fapln\u011b v\u0161ichni. Jen\u017ee postupem \u010dasu mohou vy\u00fastit v neodbytn\u00e9ho vnit\u0159n\u00edho kritika \u2013 hlas, kter\u00fd n\u00e1m na\u0161ept\u00e1v\u00e1, v\u00a0\u010dem v\u0161em nejsme dost dob\u0159\u00ed. Co d\u011blat, kdy\u017e v\u00e1m pochybnosti za\u010dnou p\u0159er\u016fstat p\u0159es hlavu?\u00a0 Ve spole\u010dnosti nastaven\u00e9 na maxim\u00e1ln\u00ed v\u00fdkon, kde je \u010dasto m\u011b\u0159\u00edtkem \u00fasp\u011bchu v\u00fd\u0161e vzd\u011bl\u00e1n\u00ed, soci\u00e1ln\u00ed status nebo raketov\u00fd postup …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":43,"featured_media":4332,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[459,460,234,440],"class_list":["post-4329","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-zivotni-styl","tag-dusevni-zdravi","tag-motivace","tag-psychicke-zdravi","tag-psychoterapie"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4329","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/43"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4329"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4329\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4967,"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4329\/revisions\/4967"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4332"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4329"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4329"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.new.prod.mutu.creativedock.cloud\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4329"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}